After a recent work transition, my first instinct was to shut the door on the past and sprint toward what’s next.
Clean slate. New experiences. No looking back.
But I paused.
Because here’s the truth, many of us avoid:
An experience you don’t learn from is one you’re likely to repeat.
So, I did the uncomfortable thing. I sat still.
I evaluated it all:
✔️ the good
❌ the bad
⚠️ and yes… the ugly
What surprised me?
The process was exhilarating.
I led myself into the nooks and crannies I’d been avoiding, old patterns, blind spots, and quiet compromises. And on the other side of that honesty came clarity:
A deeper understanding of my values, my non-negotiables, and what the next phase of my career must honor.
That’s when it hit me: Self-leadership isn’t a fancy cliché.
It’s the discipline of guiding your own thoughts, emotions, and attitudes on purpose.
It’s choosing to be the CEO of your own life, not waiting for external direction, permission, or rescue.
And it all starts with self-awareness. The you that you don’t know… You can’t manage.
Self-awareness is the edge.
It sharpens your focus, boosts your productivity, and builds resilience that doesn’t crumble when circumstances change.
If you’re in a transition - career, leadership, or life - don’t rush past the lesson.
Pause. Reflect. Lead yourself first.
What has a recent experience taught you about your values or non-negotiables?
If you are ready to do a deeper work intentionally, I’ll be happy to help you get started.
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