LADY, PLEASE DON'T DO THE TRANSFER!

As you know, money is not the only thing people transfer. There are many other things people transfer but here are a few things we must not transfer.

DON'T TRANSFER YOUR RESPONSIBILITIES: Some people have the habit of transferring their responsibilities to others. There are responsibilities that are yours and yours alone. Avoiding them may seem like a convenient option but be assured, life has a way of bringing us back to learn any lesson we avoid. So, stop avoiding your responsibilities. Stop transferring them to people. You become a burden to people when you keep doing that. This does not mean you cannot ask for help or seek assistance, but there are responsibilities that are primarily yours, don't transfer them. Take responsibility!

DONT TRANSFER YOUR HURT: A wise man once said, "Hurting people hurt people". That's the natural disposition of people. Once they are hurt, they tend to hurt others. Doing this will only worsen the situation. Don't transfer your hurt to your spouse, your children, your friends, your employees, or those close to you. Ask God for help in the place of prayer. Seek professional counselling if possible. Open up to a trusted confidant, it is therapeutic. You may need to find closure by all means, but make sure you are not transferring the hurt to those who are innocent.

DON'T TRANSFER YOUR FEAR: We all have our personal fears that we are either navigating through or dealing with. It is okay to have those fears and work on overcoming them, but it is unhealthy to transfer those fears to people around you. Sometimes we don’t even know we do this, especially to those who look up to us.

Be careful of how you talk about your fear. You might be transferring them to people around you unconsciously.

DONT TRANSFER YOUR FAULT: Stop the blame game! If you are at fault, be honest enough to admit it. Don’t look for who to blame. Own up! If you messed up, own up to it. Stop blaming your boss, your country, your temperament and your background. You know why? There are people with the same boss like yours, there are people in the same country you are, there are people with worse background than yours, yet they are thriving. You can only blame people and circumstances for so long. There comes a point in life that you have to take personal responsibility for yourself and the direction you are headed.

Don't do these transfers. It’s not worth it!

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© Bisola Mogaji

DONT HATE IT IF YOU AIM FOR IT

I have seen the poor hating the rich for no reason. It is amusing that the same poor people aim at coming out of penury.

There are singles who despise the married for nothing. These same singles want to have a great marriage.

There are those who desire to be significant and become great leaders, yet they have no regard or respect for authority whether professional, spiritual or governmental. Such people are full of negativity and always quick to cast aspersions. They forget that the grace you don’t respect, you can’t attract.

There are people who desire to take certain steps but detest those who are already living in that reality. They see them as proud, self-absorbed and undeserving. Yet, in the very dept of their hearts they desire the same.

Friends, it is folly to hate and attack what you aim to have.

Deal with unnecessary hatred and bitterness. It is cancerous. It will eat you up. Stop hating what you are aiming for. 

You cannot attract what you attack. I believe it is true and real.

Could this be the reasons why many have not been able to attain certain heights they desire despite aiming for those heights?

Let's do self-examination and evaluation. Replace the criticism with appreciation and admiration. Look for clues, success always leaves clues. Be grateful for where you are as you aim at your target.

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©Bisola Mogaji.

LADY, WHAT DO YOU DRIVE?

What do you drive? A Mercedes Benz? Ferrari? Dodge? Lamborghini? Bugatti?

There are several drivers, but what we drive differs. What we drive also reflect where we are in life.

1. Some drive cars alone: Yes, many ladies drive powerful cars. There’s something about being a lady behind the wheel of a powerful car, cruising with confidence. But if the only thing you drive is a car, then you still have a long way to go.

2. Some drive men (crazy): Yes, some take pride in the ability to sit behind the wheels of their relationships, especially with the men in their lives. To them, life is about driving men to do their biddings. They have financial muscle, and they call the shots and anyone can be ‘driven’ in their desired direction. If this describes you, you need to address a deep-seated issue.

Here are a few things you can’t go wrong driving:

1. DRIVE TOWARDS YOUR GOAL: What are you driving towards? How far have you driven it this year? Are you on the move or have you given up? Remember nothing works until you work it.

2. DRIVE OUT FEAR: Don’t let fear paralyze you. Everything you desire is on the other side of fear. It’s nothing but F-E-A-R (False Evidence Appearing Real). Don’t throw in the towel. Put your leg on the accelerator despite your fear and watch things move!

3. DRIVE HOME YOUR MESSAGE: What is that message you have for your world? How are you driving home this message? Don’t be discouraged. Keep singing, keep writing, keep speaking, keep building yourself. Stay faithful. Don't stop. Consistency compounds. In the fulness of time it will pay off.

4. DRIVE ON: It’s not over until it’s over. No matter your level of expertise, there is always the next level. As long as you are alive, there’s no end to learning. The mastery you have over your skills, career, niche should not be static. We are in a fast-changing world. Don’t rest on your oars and don’t settle for less.

Beyond all these, it’s really about who is driving you. Can you move over to the passenger’s seat and let God take the steering wheel?

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© Bisola Mogaji.