CLASSLESSNESS IS CARELESSNESS

If you are classless, you are careless. What does it mean to have class as a woman? it doesn't necessarily mean you are born into a royal family or an elite family. It simply means you have some level of dignity for yourself, level of honor, importance and dignity you attach to your life and personality.

If you are classless, it means all friendship are good for you. All treatments are welcome, no principles, no taste, no check point in your life. You are open to everything, and to everyone. No restrain. No control. No standard.

Being classy is classic. It doesn't mean you are proud or should be proud. It doesn't mean you are a snub. It doesn't mean you look down on the less privileged around you or you segregate people. It only means you don't roll with things and people that can drag you in the mud or that can strip you of your honor, dignity and integrity.

Not everyone can be your friend. Not every offer is meant for you. Not everyone will get you.

Remember, you are one in a million and you are in a class of your own, so carry yourself as such!

To all classy ladies out there, Happy International Women’s Day 🥂!

Written by:

© Bisola Mogaji.

DON'T SAY 'I AM SORRY'

One of the most irritating habits you can find with people is when they say 'I am sorry" indiscriminately, so as to appear humble or nice. Some people just apologize even when it is not necessary.

As powerful as this expression is, you must know when to use it and when not to use it.

You should rightfully say “I am sorry" when you have caused hurt, harm or wrong through your action or inaction. When you say ' I am sorry' it means you regret your action and would behave differently if occasion permits. It expresses remorse or empathy.

Let's talk about when not to apologize. These are times you must not say "I am sorry" either verbally or through your action.

Don't apologize when you are shining your light: It is true that not everyone can stand the brightness of your light. You must not dim your light because some people can't stand the degree of your brightness. Shine more. Shine forth. Shine brighter.

Don't apologize when you are standing for the truth: It is true that people will want you to back down. Truth might not sell where you are, but stand on the truth. Stand with the truth. Don't say sorry for saying the truth or doing what's is true.

Don't apologize when you are succeeding: Never say, 'I am sorry for achieving more'. As long as you are not oppressing anyone on your path to success. As long as you are not blocking the ways of others. As long as you are not putting anyone down to rise, never apologize for attaining more, for succeeding more or for becoming more.

Go forth gallantly. Be daring. Be bold. Be courageous. Don't let anyone make you feel bad for scaling new heights. Never apologize for becoming You. Never apologize for evolving.

DON'T SAY ' I AM SORRY'.

Written by:

© Bisola Mogaji.

IMPACT BEFORE YOU DEPART

As of 2020, the world’s population was estimated at about 7.753 billion. Have you ever wondered why a deliberate creator, who does not waste resources, would keep adding human beings into this already seemingly overcrowded space. Is it just to live for a couple of years and then exit this world, most of the times unceremoniously?

From what I know about the creator, there is an intention behind everything He does, and Him handcrafting about 7.8 billion unique human beings and placing them very carefully on earth is no mistake. He is intentional.

When I took a closer look at nature, the systems and the infinite power that sustains the world through his word, I gained insight into the deliberateness of God and perhaps one of the reasons we are still here.

Someone once said, “Rivers do not drink their own water; trees do not eat their own fruit; the sun does not shine on itself, and flowers do not spread their fragrance for themselves. Living for others is a rule of nature…”

You are where you are currently for a purpose and that purpose is beyond you. If only you could take the focus off your need for once and meet someone’s need, you would experience an unimaginable sense of fulfilment that you probably have been yearning for.

Also, remember that whether we impact lives or not, when our time is up, we will surely depart. The choice is ours.

Written by:

© Bisola Mogaji